In one of our previous blog posts, we discussed both the relief and apprehension that can come with a hospital discharge for your senior loved one. For many families, bringing a loved one home after a hospital stay feels like the obvious and often most desired next step. Home is familiar, comfortable, and filled with cherished memories. It’s where most seniors want to be and thus where their families want them to be as well. However, having your loved one return home to live independently may not be the best or safest option (at least at first). Following a hospital stay, many seniors need extra help or assistance that they had while in the hospital but will lack when they return home if not accompanied by a caregiver.

This can be a confusing and conflicting time for families: while you are grateful that a hospital stay has ended, fears and questions begin to pop up. One of the most common questions and concerns we hear is whether or not home is really the safest place for their loved one right now.

Making this decision can be challenging as there are so many moving parts and factors depending on your loved one's health and recovery timeline. There are two major considerations when honoring a loved one’s wishes: safety, recovery, and long-term well-being. That makes this decision burdensome, as you feel you need to make the best choice for your loved one and don’t want to make a mistake. These emotional decisions, luckily, don’t have to be made alone!

At Senior Industry Services, we understand how overwhelming these situations can feel. Our goal is to provide helpful information and resources so families can make informed decisions. When you’re ready to take the next step, Oasis Senior Advisors Austin and Central Texas can help guide you through the process and identify the most suitable care options for your loved one.

When Home Isn’t Safe Yet

After a hospitalization, many seniors experience issues with things like reduced strength, limited mobility, increased fall risk, medication changes, or cognitive challenges that can make returning home difficult. The issue when returning home isn’t that they don’t want to go home; often, all parties involved would prefer to live at home to work. However, it’s not always the safest option following a hospital discharge.

In a previous blog post highlighting the risks and concerns of a senior going back to living independently following a hospitalization, we shared information from a study on the problems of older adults living alone after hospitalization. The study states that older adults may undergo substantial changes in function and living status when hospitalized for acute medical illness. A decline in function in activities of daily living (ADLs) occurs in one-third of hospitalized older adults and frequently heralds an end to community living. The study further goes on to state that for many patients, the time after hospitalization is one of dynamic flux. Changes in functional status (both improvement and worsening) commonly occur even after hospitalization, and the risk of nursing home placement may persist. This is what makes it so hard to determine the right thing to do and why having guidance can be so helpful in making these tough decisions.

It’s easy to feel stuck between what your loved one wants and what is best for their safety and recovery. The best option might not necessarily be outside of the home but rather additional care and precautions made to make their home safer. Oftentimes, a short-term rehabilitation stay may be helpful, or having a temporary caregiver come alongside you and your loved one to provide additional support may be extremely beneficial for their recovery to help them to transition back to living independently.

An article on striving towards independence after early discharge and the lived experiences of older adults and their relatives shares how striving towards independence is characterized by being at ease with all the changes following hospital discharge. It further explains that returning home often disrupts the worlds of both seniors and their relatives. Their lives are suddenly dominated by the constraints of illness, leaving less room for cherished routines, and previously valued habits are put on hold. 

Having to become accustomed to new habits and routines can be challenging, especially for those who greatly value their routines. Accepting support can also be a challenging thing for many seniors, as they pride themselves on their independence. Suddenly feeling dependent can be a hard feeling for seniors to come to terms with. But needing support and receiving it is a beautiful thing; besides, all of us need some extra help from time to time! And most of the time, after taking extra time to rest and recover, seniors are able to go back to their cherished independent living and routines.

An Austin Family

We see situations like this all the time, and we often hear the question and concern regarding a loved one's ability to return home after a hospital stay. It can be hard to make a decision that may go against what your loved one wants, but ultimately, you have to do what’s best for their safety and overall well-being. 

We’ll provide an example from a family in Austin that was facing a situation just like this.

Their mother had been hospitalized after a fall and was preparing for discharge. This family shared with us that their mother was a widow for many years and had enjoyed living independently, so she was adamant about returning home immediately. Like many seniors, she valued her independence and felt most comfortable in the familiar surroundings of her own home. She wanted to continue her recovery at home, but her children were uncertain of whether or not that would be the best decision for her. It’s hard as an adult child to balance wanting to respect your parents' wishes while also wanting to do what you think is best.

Their mother still needed assistance completing ADLs such as getting out of bed, getting dressed, and going to the restroom. While she was steadily progressing, she still needed regular help, and her family didn’t think she was quite ready to go back to living independently. She also already required a walker or cane while walking, as she was a bit unsteady, and this reality made her family more nervous about her navigating around her house alone. 

Her family members visited regularly before her hospitalization, but she did not have around-the-clock support. Now her family was left with circling concerns and questions, such as whether she’d be alright overnight, worries about her falling again, and whether she could properly manage her new medications. 

All of these concerns are valid and understandable. So, rather than rushing into a decision, they took time to evaluate all available options with help from Oasis Senior Advisors. They learned that a short-term rehabilitation stay could help their mother regain strength while reducing the risk of another hospitalization or injury. Once she improved and showed she could safely manage ADLs independently, the family felt much more confident about her return home.

The outcome wasn’t exactly what anyone initially envisioned, but it ultimately supported their mother’s recovery and her long-term independence. 

Looking for More Guidance?

If you're wrestling with the question of whether a parent can safely return home after a hospital stay, you're not alone. In one of our recent articles, "Can My Parent Safely Live Alone After a Hospital Stay?" we explored many of the warning signs families should consider before assuming home is the best option. The blog post highlights common concerns such as fall risks, medication management, mobility limitations, cognitive changes, caregiver availability, and the importance of having a realistic support plan in place before discharge. It also provides some practical questions families can ask to help assess whether a loved one is truly ready to live independently again.

Where Senior Industry Services Can Help

Senior Industry Services was created to help families navigate these challenging moments with confidence. We have worked to research and curate some of the most helpful resources available for seniors, their families, and those working in the senior sector. When families are faced with difficult care decisions, having reliable information can make all the difference. Understanding available options allows you to evaluate what is safest, most practical, and most beneficial for your loved one’s unique situation. 

Senior Industry Services is designed to be a trusted starting point for families navigating these difficult transitions, curated by experts in the senior sector. Once you've gathered information and are ready to explore specific care solutions, Oasis Senior Advisors of Austin & Central Texas can help you evaluate local options and guide you toward the most appropriate next step for your loved one's unique situation.

Where Oasis Senior Advisors Can Help

Oasis Senior Advisors of Austin and Central Texas is your trusted partner in finding the perfect senior living solution in Austin. They have worked to research and curate the most helpful resources to aid in your search for senior care. Whether you’re looking for healthcare services, financial guidance, or senior living communities, you can find everything you need here. Oasis Senior Advisors helps families find senior living options for their loved ones, for free! They are compassionate and knowledgeable and work alongside you to assess your loved one's health and financial situation and determine the communities and care levels that will be the right fit for your loved one. They do this with the understanding that every family’s situation is different and their needs and preferences are as well.

Local Guidance for Families Across Central Texas

These conversations happen every day across communities throughout Central Texas. A son in Georgetown worries about his mother’s safety and her struggles with navigating her house while her mobility is steadily decreasing. A daughter in Round Rock worries about her father’s declining health and recent dementia diagnosis and her ability to balance work, family responsibilities, her children, and her father’s need for additional assistance. 

These challenges, concerns, and questions are not rare, so if you are in a similar situation…you aren’t alone!

It’s understandable not to know where to turn to or where to look for help and guidance; that’s why we are hoping to streamline the process for you. We aren’t here to tell you what to do, but rather to help guide you and understand the choices available.

If your family is facing a difficult decision about what comes next, you don't have to navigate it alone. Senior Industry Services can help you understand the landscape and explore available resources. When you're ready for personalized guidance, Oasis Senior Advisors Austin & Central Texas is here to help you evaluate your options and move forward with confidence. So, please feel free to reach out if you have questions and would like some extra guidance. Sometimes the most important next step is simply talking through it all with someone who understands.

Making The Right Choice

When a senior loved one says, "I just want to go home," families can often feel torn between respecting that wish and protecting their safety. It’s a tough place to be in and hard to feel so much weight on your shoulders of making the right choice.

Sometimes, having your loved one return home after a hospital stay can be the right decision, even if done so with extra precautions and assistance; however, other times it may not be advisable. The key is to make an informed decision that considers your loved one's safety and long-term independence. 

If you're facing a similar situation, remember that you don't have to navigate it alone! Senior Industry Services can provide valuable information and resources and a great starting point, while Oasis Senior Advisors of Austin and Central Texas can help you evaluate care options and find the most appropriate solution for your loved one.

Together, they can help families move forward with greater confidence and clarity and a peace of mind during some of life's most challenging transitions.

Written for Senior Industry Services by Lauren Hope Bartling

References:

About oasis - oasis senior advisors. (n.d.-a). https://www.oasissenioradvisors.com/about-oasis/ 

Amy Goyer (AARP’s family and caregiving expert and author of Juggling Life.) (n.d.). Managing the transition from hospital to rehab to home . AARP. https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/home-care/transition-from-hospital-rehab-home/ 

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